Thursday, May 27, 2010

Steam Coming Out Of My Ears

Today's order: Grande Non-Fat Vanilla Latte, Extra-Hot

I was so incredibly angry.

It's nearly 12 hours later and it still makes me so angry I could throttle someone. Someone in particular.

Let's backtrack a little so you get the whole story...

The Boy goes to preschool now (yeah, it's been a while since I posted regularly. He's 3 and a half now, can you believe it?). Preschool is on Tuesdays and Thursdays in the morning. This past Tuesday I arrived to pick him up as per usual, and parked my car in the parking lot of the school. On my way down to the school I passed a minivan with its windows partly rolled down. Much to my surprise, a little voice called out "hello!" as I passed. I glanced back to see a small child, no more than 2, buckled into a car seat, sitting in the car alone. Alone! No parent or other responsible individual in sight.

I was stunned.

I called over a friend of mine who was also on her way into the school, just to be sure that I wasn't crazy and seeing things (I'm a tad sleep-deprived these days). She was equally stunned. We both thought we recognized the vehicle as belonging to a mother from the other preschool classroom. Neither of us knew her name.

I was so flabbergasted that I just didn't know what to say or do. I was speechless.

Sure enough, as my friend and I were leaving the school and heading back to our cars, the woman we suspected as being the culprit was driving off in her minivan without a care in the world.

Fast-forward to today.....

Again I arrived at the school and parked in the parking lot. I noted the vehicle in question once again, and detoured out of my way to go past it and look inside. You can guess what I found.

I was livid. I saw red. My adrenalin was pumping, my heart was racing, and this time I was not going to sit back and watch as someone put their child at risk.

I marched into the school and made a beeline for the other preschool classroom. Sure enough, there she was, nonchalantly conversing with another parent, her back to me. I tapped her on the shoulder and said, "Excuse me, but did you leave your child alone in the car?" To which she non-chalantly replied, "Yeah" with a look that said "what's it to you?" (!!!!!) *cue the sound of my head exploding*

At this point I mustered up every ounce of composure I could locate and somehow managed to not rip her head off. Instead, I tore a healthy strip off her, reminding her that leaving your small child alone and completely out of your sight in a vehicle for the 10 minutes it takes to pick up your child from preschool does not constitute acceptable behaviour. Any amount of time is unacceptable. I told her that if it was too inconvenient for her to bring her child safely inside the school, all she has to do is ask me to watch the child in the parking lot and I will happily do so to ensure that child's safety. I also told her that she could now consider herself on notice, and the next time I see her leave a child alone in a vehicle I will call Children's Services right away and report her.

And don't think for one second that I won't.

7 comments:

Zoeyjane said...

I COMPLETELY agree. Good for you for standing up for that kid. What would the mother do if there was an accident, or an abduction!? What an irresponsible parent.

Chibi Jeebs said...

*standing ovation*

Good for you! I'm not a parent, but I cannot FATHOM leaving a child in a vehicle - hot or not, windows up or down, awake or asleep - alone. It is seriously mind-boggling. Like Zoeyjane mentioned, how would she live with herself if there were an accident or abduction (or WORSE)? And for her to be so nonchalant about it?!? I'm amazed at your restraint!

bad mummy said...

What would I have done? Taken the kid out of the car and walked him/her into the school and made a HUGE obvious to-do about looking for his/her mummy. You know...peering into all the classrooms, asking the teachers, talking loudly..."Does anyone know who this child belongs to? I found him/her all alone in a car parked outside..."

Sadia said...

Agreed. I try not to be judgmental about other parents' decisions, but this one crosses a line. Do I leave my kids in the car in the safety of our garage while I grab their breakfast? Sure. Anywhere else? No.

Our daycare center is VERY good about having a free teacher at dropoff and pickup in case a family's having a particularly hard time and needs help getting multiple kids in and out of cars. In understand the challenge of two or more kids, but we parents need to suck it up and be adults!

Russ said...

To think, I grumble about having to take two kids into the store to grab a couple of things. Heck, I could just leave them in the car!

Pierrette said...

You are kinder then me, I probably would of called children's services right there and then.

Their is no excuse in the world to leave a toddler alone for any reason...

Jaina said...

Yay you! I'm so glad to confronted her. You probably just saved that child's life. I know that you will follow through on calling CPS. I cannot understand some people. I love Bad Mummy's suggestion, so long as it doesn't get you into trouble for getting the child out of the car.